1. You actually like each other
It sounds like a no-brainer, but happy couples really, really like each other. “There should be an awareness that this is your best friend, the person you like, love, and with whom you want to share your life,” says Antonia Hall, MA, a psychologist, relationship expert, and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life.
“In a good, solid relationship both people encourage and bring out the best in each other.”
3. Your partner is the first person you want to call when you want to have to give good or bad news!
You just got a huge promotion and the first thing you want to do after you find out is call your mate. You don’t want to talk to anyone other than your partner when something good happens in your life. And if something bad is going on, you’d rather chat with your partner about it than with anyone else.
“Look at the favorites in your phone,” says Brooke Wise, founder of Wise Matchmaking. “When he or she gets to number one, that’s a pretty good sign. It doesn’t happen overnight, but when it does, consciously or unconsciously, things are going quite well.”
4. He or she does not judge you.
5. Your squad loves your partner.
6. You don’t complain about your partner to your friends
You’re not up all night texting your friends about something she did or didn’t do. In fact, it’s hard for you to find anything negative about her.
“Our friends want us to be happy,” says Hall. “When you don’t complain to your friends about your partner, they’ll feel good about her as your partner and want to support the relationship.”
7. You don’t dodge difficult discussions
When you can discuss tough topics like kids, religion, sex, and politics, you have a solid foundation for a future together. “Two-way communication is central to any viable marriage or relationship,” says Stacey Laura Lloyd, a dating, relationships and wellness writer.
“When you and your partner can openly, honestly, and candidly discuss anything—and no topic is taboo—the bonds between the two of you are continuously strengthened,” Lloyd says that if you can’t talk about difficult topics, it’s only a matter of time before this prohibition ultimately undermines all your communications.
“Every relationship comes with challenges and difficult conversations,” says Megan Costello, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Los Angeles.
“It’s how you navigate these discussions that really matter. Listen with empathy and strive to recognize strengths in your partner during conversations about difficulty.”